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Asa Lovechild: Is Rihanna Blinded by Love for Chris Brown in Her Oprah Winfrey Interview?
by Asa Lovechild, Your Black World
Could you ever forgive someone who put their hands on you? Does the love that you have for that person become nonexistent?
Well, if you expected Rihanna to go on a “bash Chris Brown” rampage on Oprah Winfrey’s Next Chapter, you were in for quit the opposite. Rihanna admitted , Sunday, that she still has love for Chris Brown and when he isn’t happy, she isn’t either. She recalled that fateful moment that turned her world upside down. She talked about the transition from being a victim of violence to being a forgiving person and healing not only from what happened to her but also healing from things of her childhood.
The average woman will look at the interview and say that Ri Ri was still a victim and is blinded by love. The girls who hide behind the tough exterior, would tell her that she should never forgive and make Chris continue to pay. Rihanna has acknowledged and said the things that most victims of domestic violence don’t have the strength and courage to say. She still loves Chris and honestly, it is very possible to love someone and also be aware that you cannot risk going back.
From the interview, it is apparent that RiRi is still healing from her past, but her resilience has shined through. The media can be very harsh when it comes to celebrities and their issues, making RiRi the poster child for domestic violence. But the only difference between her and others is that her story has played out for what seems like an eternity in front of the world.
But through it all she is continuing to grow into a woman who understands that in order to move forward, you have to learn how to channel the negative experiences, into a positive future and it all starts with forgiveness.
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Asa Lovechild is an accomplished actress and singer out of New York City.
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black723
August 20, 2012 at 7:00 pm
I think if rihanna has forgiven chris, then all of the miserable men-bashing women that want him to suffer for the rest of his life should sit down somewhere and stfu.
WizardG
August 21, 2012 at 5:58 pm
@black723. I agree with you. These two are obviously in love with each other! They make a fine couple and should be very careful to keep their emotions in check pertaining to jealousy, etc.
They both appeal to millions of fans and fanatics, so they should work out a strong psychological understanding about their likes, dislikes and the way they handle their lovestruck jealousy-filled emotional anger.
blackphoenix
August 20, 2012 at 7:21 pm
she needs a mother!
SIS
August 20, 2012 at 7:35 pm
There are 2 sides to every story. Chris really has said very little regarding his side and I believe he regrets and has paid the price the very bad decision that he made, HOWEVER, I have always felt that these two people truely love each other and deserve the opportunity to work things out. Although he was wrong to hurt her, Stephen A. Smith addressed the issue of what women need to do to avoid these situations. (2 sides). So, all that said, I agree and love RiRi – Chris needed help (and he needs to mature and grow up)….and the best thing for him is to have the women that loves him at his side….only time will tell. In the mean time…..LEAVE CHRIS ALONE! Love Rules (I hope).
Janice
August 20, 2012 at 9:03 pm
I think RiRi is very aware of her feelings toward Chris Brown. It is possible to love him, but also understand that they cannot be together. I admire her that she knows that some people will not understand, but she is strong enough to admit that she still loves him and wants a friendship. She is merely following her values by “turning the other cheek”, which is the Christian way.
Trina
August 21, 2012 at 4:58 am
Awwww bless this young lady heart . She is a beautiful girl she needs to understand she must never go back . It’s ok to love a person and not be with them . Babygirl give it to god and move on with your life .
Mendi
August 21, 2012 at 6:13 pm
I this article was written tastefully. Kudos and thank you for sharing with the communities. I really don’t know what to say about the thin line between love and hate. It starts with yourself. You must love yourself before you can love someone else.
peace
Erica
August 22, 2012 at 1:08 pm
Is she expected to hate him for the rest of her life so that people can feel better about their miserable lives?? Even if she gets back with him, she knows what he is capable of and will do so at her own risk. It is HER life and she should do as she pleases.
The Don
August 23, 2012 at 2:03 pm
Question to all the non forgivers. Ever had your butt whipped/spanked/beat by someone who loves/loved you? Lets say your mother , father, brother, siste, best friend etc.? Let’s say maybe you even deserved it. Do you hate them for that and forever keep that feeling in your heart. I think not. Hate begets hate so get off your high horse and get forreal. To err is human but to forgive is divine…..live long enough and maybe you might understand that. Live and love long Chris and Rih!!!
tawanda
August 24, 2012 at 12:33 am
I think she can forgive him if she wants to. but why does she have to sstill have relations with him? it sends a cryptic message to girls that it’s okay to get physically abused by your boyfriend and go back to him. many black women artist have promoted unhealthy relationships in their songs. Mary J Blige has a new song called ‘I love my Mr.Wrong’ that generally asserts that it is okay to be in a relationship with ‘mr.wrong’ as long as the sex is good. Jill Scot also has a recent song ‘in this bed’ that puts forth the same message ‘i know this relationship is bad, but the sex is too good for me to walk out’. Rhianna has lots of songs promoting unhealthy relationships as well. The trend amongst the hiphop arena is that good is bad and bad is good. Thus the first line of Mary’s song ‘Bad boys aint no good, good boys aint no fun’ Rhianna has a song that goes ‘because darkness is the light’. you see, they put forth a backwards ass philosophy in their songs. by promoting negative relationships, the general assertion amongst these female artists are: bad is good, and good is bad.