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Dr. Boyce: Meet the Handsome Man Who Loved Passing On His HIV

by Dr. Boyce Watkins – BlackLikeMoi.com

A former professional wrestler who went by the name “Gangsta of Love” and “Sweet Sexy Sensation” has been sentenced to 32 – years in prison for having sex with women without telling them that he’d tested positive for the virus that causes AIDS. Andre Davis, a 29-year old man, was sentenced on 14 counts of felonious assault in the case, after it was determined that at least a dozen of his partners were not made aware of his status.

Davis claims that he is a sex addict and that his addiction was also driven by losing his dream of becoming a pro wrestler after testing positive for HIV.

“Drugs and alcohol are terrible, but sex is something everybody wants,” he said.

“I am not a monster,” he said.

Davis tells the world that he is not a monster, but he certainly acted like one.   His decision to be so terribly irresponsible with his body has ruined countless lives and made our society a little less safe for us all.   What’s most frightening about this “monster” is that there are thousands of other monsters in our society, some of whom have no idea that they are walking bio-weapons of mass destruction.

Quite a few men, especially those who are athletes, entertainers, ballers, etc, have been taught by media to pride themselves on how many women they can sleep with. When our kids are bombarbed with lyrics like “I wish I could F*ck every girl in the world,” (thanks to Lil Wayne), they are filled with a warped sense of masculinity that teaches them that you are to take sex from any attractive woman who offers it.   If women are attracted to you, your rolodex is never too full for the beautiful woman you met at the party, and that includes many men who are married.

For good-looking brothers like Davis, there is no end to the supply of women willing to hop in bed with them after the third or fourth date.   These women are not “hoes,” rather, they are normal, educated, church-going, corporate black women with high-paying  jobs and normal lives.  Many women become so hypnotized by the amount of “swag” that the man has, how well he dresses, what he’s driving or how good he looks, that they don’t take the time to find out if he might send her to the morgue.

Men like Davis are rarely scrutinized for anything other than their smooth words and winning smiles.  What’s worse is that too many people forget that HIV is just one of many sexually-transmitted diseases that your dream man could be bringing into your life.   Beyond the HIV explosion in the black community is an equally-violent release of herpes, chlamydia, gonorrhea, HPV and all the other frightening STDs that go “bump” in your vagina.

Most of us know men who’ve had a lot of sex with a lot of women and haven’t been to the doctor in years.   For some, sex is the perpetual hunger that can never be fully-satiated.   While most women grow up accustomed to regular doctor’s visits for pap smears and other routine check-ups, many men do not.   Therefore, Davis is actually unique in that he even knew his HIV status in the first place.   Given that he lost his job as a wrestler because of his status, chances are that he was forced to take a test that he would not have taken otherwise.   How many other Andre Davis-like men are there out there who never took the test and will never be prosecuted for spreading HIV because they had no idea of their status?

So, perhaps an honest reflection on our sexual decisions might be called for in the strange times in which we live.   Is Andre Davis a monster? I’m not sure.   What is most frightening is that he might not be a monster, abnormality or uniquely malevolent human being – he might actually just be a regular guy.  I’m sure Davis has quite a few friends just like him…..you probably know a few Andre Davis-like men yourself.

Dr. Boyce Watkins is a Professor at Syracuse University and founder of the Your Black World Coalition. To have Dr. Boyce commentary delivered to your email, please click here.

 

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26 Responses to Dr. Boyce: Meet the Handsome Man Who Loved Passing On His HIV

  1. carolyn rigueur Reply

    January 27, 2012 at 4:37 pm

    well i don’t blame him it’s up to the women to be careful…

    • Patrice Robertson Reply

      January 29, 2012 at 5:39 pm

      I understand you supposed to know your partner but for you to say its not his fault that’s cold blooded of you. What if one of them girls was your daughter who slept with him

      • Arthur Reply

        April 8, 2012 at 2:32 pm

        I’m inclined to agree with the previous writter. As adults, we are responsible for our own safety and protection. Short of a committed relationship or marriage, no one should ever have unprotected sex, thus rendering individuals like this unable to pass on the virus. These women were not in exclusive relationships with him, nor were they raped, so…

    • Mahoganyone Reply

      January 29, 2012 at 5:42 pm

      He was aware of his HIV status and thus had a moral obligation to tell his sexual partner(s) of that fact. To put the responsibility on the women isn’t fair as you are blaming the victims. How harsh and punitive!

    • Nancy Reply

      January 30, 2012 at 10:33 pm

      You don’t blame him? Seriously? That is a sad and rather pathetic take on your views on integrity. Of course we women should always insist on condoms & ideally a visit together to the doctor for clean tests for both. However, condoms break & most women aren’t secure enough in all the ways we “should” be to do a double Dr date. What happened to expecting others to be honest? Why on earth would lies of omission or just plain old lies ever be accepted & expected? Just because some one else does it, why should we lower our expectations, values, truths & ourselves as strong women to the trashy men that want to hurt & belittle us?
      No, its not OK for someone to lie to me. & I expect all men to tell the truth or pay some serious consequences…starting w/me, if necessary the law & ending where G*d shows some truth. Painful truth. Tell the truth & shame the devil, not tell a lie and watch him dance. Golden Rule.

      • Otis Griffin Reply

        February 11, 2012 at 2:50 pm

        thank you , well said!!

    • Otis Griffin Reply

      February 11, 2012 at 2:46 pm

      some comments need to ‘ kept to yourself’ why not
      ‘blame him’.Deceitful , selfish & deadly- so what’s NOT to blame??

    • BeFayiza Reply

      April 26, 2012 at 6:16 am

      Really! Seems takes 2 to tango & to have sex… and to be responsible. After all HE IS the one with HIV isn’t HE? So seems men need be responsible for their health too. Or here’s an idea since it’s only 2012! How ’bout we take care of each other for a change & stop the irresponsible f&*king like its 1975?! What a concept

  2. rhonda Reply

    January 27, 2012 at 5:45 pm

    this is so sad and nasty and to think it’s alot of other men and women out here that dont know and know they have it.real scary.

  3. henryhillarious Reply

    January 28, 2012 at 1:27 pm

    thats a strong statement carol.

  4. Chris Reply

    January 29, 2012 at 5:17 pm

    “For good-looking brothers like Davis, there is no end to the supply of women willing to hop in bed with them after the third or fourth date. These women are not “hoes,” rather, they are normal, educated, church-going, corporate black women with high-paying jobs and normal lives. Many women become so hypnotized by the amount of “swag” that the man has, how well he dresses, what he’s driving or how good he looks, that they don’t take the time to find out if he might send her to the morgue.”

    Your entire article was focused on how bad this man was for his actions, which were horrible, not attempting to defend or exonerate him in that instance, but in this very paragraph you show how values of women are the very cause of their downfall when it comes to the dating pool. Because of his SWAG (Stupidity Without A Goal), money, clothes or whatever… I understand that confidence and value is attractive, but when should that override common sense? Then again, it’s not all that common so let’s leave it at sense. You’re right, there are many diseases and traps that you can fall into nowadays, but it’s YOUR responsibility how you treat YOUR body and whether or not you decide that rarely satiated hunger is enough of a temptation to risk your health.

  5. Patrice Robertson Reply

    January 29, 2012 at 5:36 pm

    I feel as though nowadays you have to have papers because people don’t care about the next person

  6. tita13 Reply

    January 29, 2012 at 5:36 pm

    How can you not blame this man? Really? He knew his status and still decided to sleep around. You are probably the type of woman that will forgive your husband for cheating on you because the women he slpet with “should have known” he was married. SMFH.

  7. Tonya Colbert Reply

    January 30, 2012 at 3:12 am

    Unfortunately, All that looks good ISN”T Good. Never judge a book by It’s cover. This We Should all know, male and female, black, white and every other race, creed and orgin. Your body is supposed to be your TEMPLE! You either guide it with your life or there will always be consequences. Don’t take ANYTHING for granted or ANYONE for that matter. YOU, are the one who can have a final say in contracting this order. You are the JUDGE, and the jury first, when TEMPTATION knocks at your door, You’d better know what he and/or she is bringing to the table. Please people, THINK !!!!!!!!!!

  8. Truth8 Reply

    January 31, 2012 at 3:10 am

    Carolyn I wonder what your response would be if you were one of those women. This could have been you or any woman. Who unknowingly falls for the wrong man. What a completely hypocritical and insensitive hateful statement. He decieved those women and is 100% to blame. I doubt if he had been honest they would have slept with such a disgusting person. I am so glad he is where he needs to be.

  9. Jennifer Reply

    February 22, 2012 at 7:08 pm

    It was is responsibility to inform his partners about his status. But I have to agree with Chris when he said “Your entire article was focused on how bad this man was for his actions, which were horrible, not attempting to defend or exonerate him in that instance, but in this very paragraph you show how values of women are the very cause of their downfall when it comes to the dating pool. Because of his SWAG (Stupidity Without A Goal), money, clothes or whatever… I understand that confidence and value is attractive, but when should that override common sense?” and Nancy said “However, condoms break & most women aren’t secure enough in all the ways we “should” be to do a double Dr date. What happened to expecting others to be honest?’

    We has women should have more respect for ourselves and our bodies to not just jump in the bed with anyone just because we want to ESPECIALLY IF YOUR NOT PROTECTING YOURSELF. This is 2012, and there are female condoms and dental dam to say the least, so you can definitely protect yourself if the guy refuses. He was wrong for intentionally affecting people. But the people he affected should have be more conscious to protect themselves so it wouldn’t happen. We need to have higher self-esteem and respect for ourselves not to just give our bodies away. We need to deal with the issues that force us to be vulnerable and fall for the bs that men give. We need to be more aware and have more confidence in finding out our mates status. Stop being so self-righteous and expecting men to be honest when we can find out their status by simply asking….if its important to you!

  10. Mebili Reply

    April 8, 2012 at 2:23 pm

    I agree with Carol. We are responsible for ourselves. These women were not rapped. And why were they having unprotected sex with this many they had just met. How many of you sit down before you have sex and have a discussion about your sexual past? How many of you share your STD past? We’ve attached this social stigma to HIV that have made us stupid. You are still responsible for your actions. If he was gay and those were men all of you would say, “well they should have used condoms”. The same holds true for the women. ONLY YOU ARE RESPONSIBLE FOR YOU.

  11. Mds Reply

    April 8, 2012 at 7:55 pm

    This man is totally wrong for his actions but please realize sex today without protection is just stupid. The ownership for this this must be owned by both parties who chose to engage in unprotected sex. You cannot allow someone is to handle your health today. Perhaps people are in the mind frame that HIV has a face and that face is not a sexy good looking straight person (male or female), if that is the case we are in a sad state of delusion.

  12. Ayinde Reply

    April 9, 2012 at 12:34 pm

    I am one of the women who got HIV from a man I trusted,,,,,I have been HIV+ for 15 Years and diagnosed with full blown AIDS 5years ago, and I am still friends with the person who infected me. I always believed that I played apart in my diagnoses and I should have demanded a condom when allowing a man to run up in me. I blame myself more then I blame him,, what good is it gonna do to blame others, it only make you a mad angry person,,,,accept your own mistake it let GOD do the rest. Guess what there are more men out here with HIV then we know, So I guess we should lock up the ladies this guy infected as well

  13. Ja A. Jahannes Reply

    April 9, 2012 at 3:29 pm

    I am surprised at the typos in the article. Good article but who proofs this stuff?

  14. Mrs. Information Reply

    April 9, 2012 at 5:06 pm

    The truth of the matter is this: there are men and women who purposely don’t get tested, and there are also men and women who are aware that they are carriers of one or more infectious diseases but purposely withhold that information from their partners because of the social stigma. And dangerous, infectious disease abound. Even though most of us are aware of this, a large percentage still continues to have unprotected sex. Unprotected sex even in a committed relationship is risky, because quite honestly, people get tempted. And were forgetting, sexual activity usually begins at an age before we are responsible adults. That coupled with the fact that a large number of men and women are sexual abused at an early age makes abstinence the most logical choice, but is it viable? Or easy for that matter?

    I’ll close by mentioning that I have a friend who was in a long-term serious relationship with a man who had informed her that he was HIV positive. When I tried to talk to her about the risks, she stated “It is better to know he is HIV positive and take the necessary precaution, than to assume he is HIV negative and don’t.”

    At the time, I didn’t understand her logic. But in this day and age, I say take that logic a step further. Assume everyone you are dating is HIV positive until you see test result and follow up test results six months later.

  15. andreas fulcher Reply

    April 9, 2012 at 7:38 pm

    I was diagnosed with HIV in 1995 at the end of an All-Star pro American football season after feeding my demons for 8 yeaqrs in Germany. As soon as I got the bad news I plunged to my knees in my condo in Hanau, Germany and repented, begging Christ to save an innocent virgin girl, whom I had defiled 18 months previously with unprotected sex, from this curse! With tears in my eyes I cried out to Jesus He would show her mercy as I did this out of lust and she did this out of pure love! We had periodic sex between a number of other women, but I knew she was special! I summoned her to my condo and informed her I had to return to Garland, TX as I was diagnosed with HIV. I was hoping she would return with me because I knew she, through Christ, would help me to be a better man.

    This innocent 20 year old German girl left her home for the firt time in her life and would inpire me to accomplish more than I had ever dreamed! At the end of 1995, we moved into my parents home. She had to pass through immigrations and have an HIV teat while processing. She came back negative!!! God knew her sacrifice would ultimately lead to my deliverance of my sexual addiction which I inherited at birth.

    After only one year of construction experience working for $6 an hour in 1996 for a concrete paving company as an administrator, I formed my own company with a hand full of credit cards and no college degree on December 27, 1996 after the company I worked for filed bankruptcy!

    Most of us, African Americans, are stricken with generational curses. Our 70% infidelity rate is the root cause more our drug, alcohol and sexual addictions. We are born bastard children! The only way to change the rising AIDS epidemic in our culture is to come back the Christ!

    Andre Davis should have taken responsibility for his actions. After 15 years of observing our apathy towards one another as a people, and after losing over $400,000.00 to covetous, proud full, jealous blacks in our culture I’ve come to the conclusion than Kanye Wests claim that George Bush doesn’t care about black people is hypocritical when you consider we don’t even care about ourselves. Mr Davis didn’t give a darn about the women he infected! I pray that all blacks who are struggling with the curse of sexual addiction look to the person you love most in your life and fast and pray. Fasting breaks sexual addiction, including internet porn. Use that person as your insprationand fast at least once a week, 24 hrs.

    God bless you all! Check out my web site: http://www.onychaindustries.com

    Click on “Our credentials” to see me at George Bushes 2004 Annual Dinner!

  16. Jumbo tammy Reply

    April 9, 2012 at 8:21 pm

    For evrytin dat happen we should give tanx to God,nd becareful of havin unprotectd sex wit people we dnt knw dare HIV STATUS,play safe,

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  18. Pinkey Reply

    August 23, 2012 at 12:58 pm

    I think he is guilty, because he knew that he was HIV positive. He should have said something, but i guess he is angry with the world.

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    July 21, 2013 at 7:49 am

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